Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Hashtag Insecurity

The Insecure Writers Support Group

Please visit the co-hosts for today's posting of the IWSG: Tyrean Martinson, Tara Tyler, Raimey Gallant, and Beverly Stowe McClure!



Optional Question: Have you ever surprised yourself with your writing? For example, by trying a new genre you didn't think you'd be comfortable in?

My short answer: Yes. My long answer: Yes, and I'm now sure I don't want to do that anymore. I have enough insecurity without doubting my own good judgement, going counter to it, and failing. Please!


Here's a bit about insecurity that I liked reading.
  According to Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D., practicing psychologist in Mill Valley, California up to 40% of our "happiness quotient" is based on our recent life events. 

She writes that "since unhappiness also influences your self-esteem, failure and rejection can deliver a double whammy to your confidence."

I think she's talking to writers, don't you? I mean her message is spot on. And here's more from Dr. Greenberg.

"Persevering despite setbacks can lead to eventual successes—which raise your self-esteem.  Before becoming president, Abraham Lincoln lost his job, was defeated for nomination to Congress, and failed at least twice in Senate bids." 

Doesn't all of this sound as if you've heard it and HEARD IT? Yes. But maybe that's okay. Maybe repetition is necessary to keep us on track. Ergo, this regular every first Wednesday post! 


Another reminder: I'm ready to take a break, so if I can't get around to everyone, my apologies, but I'm packing and fretting and being insecure about SECURITY and my FLOTATION DEVICE that I'll supposedly find under my airplane seat. Then there's my passport and my Global Entry number. . .Well, you can see that it's not only writing that generates insecurity in me.






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Are you jumping into the next contest? What's your happiness quotient these days? See you in November with my "slide show" from France and Texas. You can hardly wait, right?

48 comments:

  1. Lincoln must've had a great attitude to get through all that.
    Safe travels! And hope you don't have to use that flotation device.

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  2. Unhappiness and negativity create a downward spiral that's hard to escape. But the only way to escape is by persevering. It's when we stop and give up that we're doomed.

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  3. Have to keep on keeping on indeed. Hope you have a grand time traveling away from your bay.

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  4. France and Texas? Now there's a combination! Yes, I will look forward to seeing the pictures. Enjoy your trip(s).

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  5. Don't fret! Just enjoy your wonderful vacation and come back all renewed.

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  6. It's interesting that the most recent stuff in your life influences your happiness the most, but it totally makes sense, too. After all, it's what is in the forefront of your mind.

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  7. Have a great vacation! Can't wait to see the pictures. And yes, perseverance is key.

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  8. Yeah repetition can be a good thing, it helps us learn but I sometimes wish the rejections weren't repeated quite so often! Never mind we must keep on going.
    Enjoy your travels.

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  9. Not easy being a writer...but I wouldn't trade it! Have fun on your vacation. Where are you heading to in Texas? If you're in the San Antonio area, wave :) We're heading out later this month for a week in New England.

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  10. Yeah, perseverance. Have to do it because stopping doesn't bear thinking about. I am looking forward to the slide show!

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  11. I hope you have a great trip! And I hope you never doubt yourself again. :)

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  12. Hi,
    Tell me about it. Persevering is the A and O of success. You won't find success. It finds you as you continue to do what your heart has set out to do.
    Shalom aleichem,
    Patricia Everything Must Change

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  13. I'm looking forward to that slide show - I'll share one, too. :) Happy Travels and Writing!

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  14. Enjoy your trip. Stay safe!

    Lincoln definitely battled the odds his whole life. Just wow.

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  15. Even more reason to do our monthly get together. :-)

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  16. I'll look forward to your slideshow. Travel pictures are so nice. Have fun on your vacation!

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  17. Have a wonderful trip, we'll all be watching for updates!

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  18. Safe (and fun) travels.
    Even as a non writer my insecurities are legion...

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  19. Hope you have a fabulous time and all goes smoothly!!
    Happiness often comes from inside and attitude, so I'm mostly pretty happy :)

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  20. Have a fun trip! I'm still trying to figure out the happiness thing with all the life changes I've gone through.

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  21. If there's a great example of that, Lincoln is definitely one. If he can go through all of that can becomes the president of the United States, then we can do anything. :)

    Safe travels! And enjoy.

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  22. Have a great trip. I'm not a great flyer and don't like long flights. Sounds like your flight will be long. Good luck with that!

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  23. Hold tight to the flotation device! :) I love posts likes this, ones that remind us that fortitude and endurance does matter.

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  24. There's a great poster of former presidents and the failures they had before becoming president. Perserverence is key.

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  25. Ah Texas my home, whisper to it I miss it. Wahoo on France. Hope you have a grand time. HUGS Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

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  26. Safe travels! I will be looking forward to your pictures. We always need to hear good things...it boosts our confidence

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  27. Have fun on your trip and be safe. See you when you return.

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  28. Looking forward to those vacation pics!

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  29. Hi Lee - travel well ... anything for a break - just enjoy 'gay Paris' and where else you're travelling to and then the wedding in Texas. Negativity can create indecision ...and that's challenging ... sometimes waiting for the negativity to blow over helps because things do happen and life changes ... cheers Hilary

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  30. Happy travelling! Have a blast!
    Looking forward to the pics on facebook...

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  31. Enjoy your trip, Lee! Hilary's right. Negativity can eventually destroy someone's hope. That's why we need good people here at IWSG. Thanks for your post!

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  32. I think I said it already, but safe travels and have a great time.

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  33. Lately, seems happiness to me is a cooling breeze on a warm day. Or a good nights sleep. Wine is also soothing to the flagging spirits :)

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  34. Lincoln knew a thing or two about perseverance that must become like second nature for writers. Enjoy your trip. I've only just returned to blogging and the IWSG since a family tragedy. Don't worry about making it around to my blog. We can catch up when you get back. Have a great vacation.

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  35. Yeah, I also surprised myself by bending towards Paranormal stories. I've always been a contemporary person but then you never know!

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  36. Sometimes, I think it takes being knocked down to really get a fire going inside, that generates the will in us to get back up and make it work!
    Have a fab trip. :-)

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  37. Travel makes me insecure too, but when I get where I'm going I usually have fun. Can't wait to see your slide show.

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  38. Hope you have a great trip! And love those quotes from Greenberg. There have been many times I felt like quitting, especially lately, so it's nice having a reminder to persevere...

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  39. Enjoy your break and happy travels. I hope you have a wonderful time. Can't wait to see pictures. :)
    ~Jess

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  40. I’m with you on checking that flotation device! Have a wonderful holiday and don’t let those insecurities get you down.

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  41. I always found that this is related to perception as well. Personally, I'm invigorated by my failures and tend to feed off negative feedback whereas my wife is the exact opposite.

    As for the contest? I'm definitely thinking about it. Different from my normal type, but I think I can knock it out.

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  42. I didn't know that about Lincoln. It's probably a very good thing he didn't give up. Failures can be tough, but those who are successful are those who kept trying. It's very rare for someone to be successful and to have never failed.

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  43. Interesting post. I also didn't know this about Lincoln.

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  44. Safe and Happy Travels. I can't wait to see your pictures!

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  45. Lincoln was a believer which is why he succeeded. He was logical, powerful and an effective battle strategist because he kept his mind crystal clear and amped on the dopamine. Bon voyage!

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