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Wednesday, June 1, 2016

What's Worthy of Insecurity?

Co-hosts today: Murees Dupe, Alexia Chamberlynn, Chemist Ken, and Heather Gardner!
I didn't forget today was the first Wednesday of the month. I took some time to think about things like life and death and the insecurity we are all caught up in while we mosey through these lives of ours. 

I lost one very long-time friend earlier this month, and just yesterday I lost another. One died in an accident. The other of chronic heart disease, so one was a shock, the other something I'd known would happen--just not when. 

But there's no difference between the two deaths when it comes to the loss I feel or how insecure I am now that those two people are no longer here and a part of days. 

I suppose this is another of life's lessons that I should be attending to. The lesson that says all has a beginning and all has an end--learn to accept and appreciate that. The lesson that says, some things aren't worth being insecure about. Save that insecurity up for what's really important. 

So that's what I've been mulling over. 









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  1. Less, I'm sorry! Prayers for you and for your friends' families.
    That does put life into perspective, doesn't it?

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    1. Yes, it does. It makes you stop and take note of many things you lose track of. Thanks, Alex.

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  2. I am so sorry. And why, oh why, does life give out her lessons through pain?

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    1. I'm wondering the same thing. Maybe to be sure we pay attention.

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  3. Sending you wishes for healing and comfort. It's so hard to lose friends.

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    1. Thanks, Jenn. It is hard, and we all understand that. It's just never less painful for that.

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  4. I am so sorry for your loses Lee. I can relate to how you feel, 18 yrs ago I lost my dear mother in the July, then three days later was told my dear husband had a terminal brain tumour and he too passed away 2 months later, Yes life is precious and each day is a gift. God bless you Lee and for all family and friends of the people who are no onger here.
    Yvonne:

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    1. Thanks, Yvonne. I know you have had your share of this and that you do understand.

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  5. Lee, I'm so sorry for your losses. Losing one friend is heartbreaking, but 2 is devastating. Life is precious. Friends are precious. Family is most precious of all.

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    1. Guess we need to be reminded every once in a while just how precious! Thanks, Cathrina.

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  6. I'm so sorry, Lee. My husband and I lost two friends close together a few months ago. It was heartbreaking for us and one of them was very close to our children also. Will think of you.

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    1. Very sad. Thank you, Susan, for your thoughts.

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  7. Good thoughts. I'm so sorry about your losses. There's nothing quite like death to put other things in perspective.

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  8. I know how you feel. My friends are getting fewer and fewer, especially the friends I attended school with. It's sad, and yes, I know it's happening, a part of life. It still hurts though. Sorry for your losses. Hugs.

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    1. Losing our school friends is really sad. I'm beginning to understand my mom a lot more.

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  9. I'm so sorry for your losses, Lee.

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  10. I am sorry for the loss of your friends. I know I still feel the absence of several of mine that have passed over the years. Praying for you and their families.
    Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

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    1. Thank you, Juneta. I guess we never really get over our people not being here.

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  11. I'm so very sorry, Lee. It always hurts.

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    1. Part of life, but one of the hardest parts.

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  12. My sympathies, and such a powerful post.

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    1. Things deeply felt often come through strongly. Appreciate the thoughts, Christine.

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  13. I just lost a good friend last weekend who went out of her way to draw me into her family, especially on the holidays so that I would not feel so alone. Death waits for us all, but the survivors hurt the worst. May comfort come to you from surprising sources.

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    1. So sorry about your recent loss. When kind people leave, that it so challenging to deal with.

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  14. I'm sorry for the loss of your friends, Lee.

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  15. Dear Lee - I'm sorry to read this ... at least one you and their family were prepared for ... the other as you say the shock - and the time to reflect on their lives and to spend one's time wisely with all our family and friends ... and acquaintances.

    With thoughts as you adjust and help where you can ... Hilary

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    1. It will be good to be with their families. That is a comfort and where ritual eases the loss. Thanks so much, Hilary.

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  16. Losing people we care about can make us feel so alone and a bit rudder-less. It does make me appreciate the friends I still have in my life though. I try always to do good by them and tell them how much I appreciate them. :)

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    1. I sense that about you. I have a feeling you're a good ally, Lexa. Your friends are lucky.

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  17. So sorry for your loss, Lee. Wishing you and the families of your friends strength and love.

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    1. Friends and family are the best at times like these. Thanks, Nicola.

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  18. Lee, so very sorry for your loss. Prayers and hugs to you and the families of both your friends.

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  19. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers.

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  20. I am sorry for your loss of your friends. Yes, the death of those we love makes us rethink so much about life. It totally has for me these last two years since I lost my husband.

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    1. I thought about you when I received the news of both these deaths. You've handled so much over these past two years.

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  21. So true. How easy it is to forget that getting wrapped up in the little things is actually a luxury.

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    1. I often find the day passes when I'm really into writing a story. My luxury.

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  22. Oh Lee, so sorry. Death makes us aware of our mortality, which each of us must face, which should make us appreciate life all the more. May you find peace and solace in remembering your friends and the joy they brought to your life. Think of how different things would have been had you never known them. Hugs.

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    1. Oh yes. You're so right. If I'd never known them I wouldn't be grieving, but think of all the wonderful things I would have missed. Thanks so much, Bish.

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  23. oh no, so sorry for your losses :-( big hugs!!!

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  24. Really does make you think, as everything ends indeed. Not an easy thought though. Sorry for your loss.

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    1. I want to be a cat and see if having 9 lives is a good thing or not.

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  25. I'm so sorry for your losses, Lee. Death of loved ones is always a shock, even if you know it's coming. I found that out when my husband passed away, nearly ten years ago. Every day we're on this Earth is precious. The older I get, the more I think about the fewer days I have left. But I have no control over that, so I do my best to live every day to its fullest and appreciate all that I have. Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way.

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    1. Your very kind, Lori. And you obviously know what loss is all about.

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  26. That kind of thing really puts things in perspective. It makes me appreciate each day I have. I'm sorry for your loss.

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    1. I think that's why I had to wait to post on Wed until later. The perspective was so different for me.

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  27. So sorry for your losses, Lee. Friends--certain friends--are as keenly missed as family. And some friends do become part of your security. I have and have had friends like that, and they have been going, one by one. But all their wisdom and impact on your life is never gone.

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    1. Beautifully said. What they left for me and others is priceless, and I hope some of that will pass on to those I love.

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  28. I am so, so sorry for your loses. It can be hard to figure out the why or to put this into perspective. Remember these individuals for the good they brought into your life. May that help you heal. <3

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    1. Thanks, Chrys. They did bring so much good and I'm going to focus on that.

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  29. So sorry for your loss, Lee. Give yourself time to cope and to know that they felt blessed for having you in their life.

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  30. So sorry to hear about your friends. That is so tough! I lost two friends in a car accident earlier this year. I know how that feels. Hugs!

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  31. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends, Lee. Doesn't matter how you lost them, it's always a shock. Then the world feels different for a while, like it's off kilter. I'll say a prayer. (((hugs)))

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  32. Oh, Lee, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friends and so close together, too. How hard for you. Hugs!

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  33. Hi Lee,

    Oh no, my friend, I'm saddened to read of the loss of your friends.

    Please look after yourself, my kind friend.

    Gary

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  34. Hi Lee,

    Oh no, my friend, I'm saddened to read of the loss of your friends.

    Please look after yourself, my kind friend.

    Gary

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  35. I'm very sorry for your loss.

    While I was in Italy, a good friend of mine died of cancer. She hadn't let anyone beyond her most inner circle of family know she was sick, so that added to the pain.

    It was yet another reminder that life is short. As much as becoming a full-time fiction author means the world to me, I'm going to try my best not to work 14-hour days any longer.

    Hugs to you.

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  36. I can understand the feeling of this loss.. no matter how the person goes.. it affects us to the core..
    Lets just pray for them to be happy and at peace wherever they are now.

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  37. I'm sorry to hear of your loss and prayers for their friends and families

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  38. That's rough, Lee. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you hold on to the cherished memories.

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  39. We can waste our lives on worrying about our own deaths or we can just live and enjoy the ride. I'll bet we who lead cushy well-provided lives think about our own woes than people who really truly are suffering and in need.

    My world is an insignificant speck in a much larger world that is a mere meaningless dot in a vast uncaring universe.


    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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  40. Oh wow, I am so sorry! I know that's an important life lesson, but it's often so painful to learn and relearn. And I'm sorry you're going through that right now.

    Best wishes and prayers. :)


    Alexa
    thessalexa.blogspot.com
    verbosityreviews.com

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  41. Oh, Lee! I am so sorry for your losses. So hard to lose people we love and even harder when the losses are close together. Sending you hugs!
    ~Jess

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  42. Sorry to read about your loss. I'm working through the A to Z road trip and like to leave positive thoughts however your first post is just sad. Still I wandered around and found you write for teens and young adults. So nice to read about someone that is generating works for our youth.
    Fran @travelgenee visiting from the A to Z Road Trip, TravelGenee Blog

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  43. Sorry to hear about your friends. Sending hugs.

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  44. So sorry for your losses. We all experience loss at some point. It is the sad side effect of living, and loving.

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  46. So sorry to hear of your losses. Losing someone close certainly shows us to appreciate what we have and to focus on the important things in life. Hugs.

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  47. That's really sad. My condolences.

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  48. I'm sorry for your losses. Death makes me think differently about how I want to approach things and what to spend my time and energy on.

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